Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and while we are all pretty well focused on turkeys and sweet potato casserole, there is definitely a deeper consideration. I don’t want to be redundant and ask you to think about what you are thankful for because that’s obviously part of the whole celebration. I know people who take time around the table to state those things. Rather, I want you to take a different direction. Who is thankful for you? And, why?

If that seems prideful, then you can choose to ignore the validity of my question, but if you will give me the benefit of the doubt, hear me out. If you are like me, you have spent an inordinate amount of time feeling like you are of little value, as though it is a challenge for people to love and appreciate you. Now, this is a relatively new understanding for me and maybe you are not ready to face the whys and wherefores of that emotion. But, if you’ll muster up a little bravery, we might just be able to make a difference in your heart this Thanksgiving. heart2

Here’s what I would like you to do, write down a list of people you think actually care about you, surely you can come up with one person. Then, suck up that fear, or pride, or whatever other excuses you want to use, and ask them to tell you why they care, what they value in you. Essentially, ask the people (person) on your list to show you why they are thankful you are in their lives.

Then, start comparing the list, or accepting the one you get. Start telling yourself that the people who love you aren’t going to lie to you about why they value you. Then begin telling the lies within you to depart, exchange lies for truth instead of the other way around. You don’t have to feel worthless anymore. Join me in the beginning of this healing process.

manipulated6monthAnd, if you do feel great about yourself, I can assure you that you have friends out there who need to know why you are thankful for them. Share this with them. We’re supposed to be speaking to each other with spiritual words and psalms, well, telling other people why they are valuable, is allowing them to understand that God sees a beauty they are blinded to.

I understand that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, that He fashioned me in my mother’s womb, that I’m engraved on His hands, and that He loves me with an everlasting love. I get that cerebrally, but there’s a disconnect between intellectually grasping that truth and emotionally embracing it. I don’t want you to remain in this state either. Let’s begin to show people how God sees them and allow them to show us how He sees us as well. Ok?


  1. You, Sister, are and have been a blessing to Karen and myself. I love the gift the God has given you with words and feelings and your ability to assemble these into coherent, meaningful statements. On top of that, you and your little family are just too cool! We are blessed and thankful to know you guys. May He continue to bless and prosper you. Amen.

    1. Thanks, Tony! I have missed you both. Chris and I are not together anymore, so the little family is smaller and cooler! Ha. Anyway, I am glad you are still enjoying these pieces and I will always welcome your commentary! Tell Karen, Hi! for me.

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