Last week my daughter got something in her eye and we had to take her to the hospital to get it removed. This could have been a 15 minute procedure but she fought tooth and nail and made it last for an hour and a half. Now she is experiencing residual pain from trauma.
Most of us don’t want to look at our lives with the label traumatic, but those things that scared us to the point we fought like a 6 year old with a sharp speck in her eye have ingrained themselves in our psyches. They have left us all a little afraid that every minute piece of dust in our eye will cause us the same amount of pain and anguish.
Think back on the really hard things in your life, if you are honest there are sections of your life that cause residual pain. That friend that betrayed you makes you a little more wary when you share your life with others. That man that belittled your intellect and accused you of infidelity makes you doubt any man is worth giving your heart to. The parents that abused and denigrated you have left you living a life from the position of “not good enough” and “unworthy.” These are the residual pains from trauma.
Tonight my daughter came out of her bedroom crying that her eye hurt the same way as the night we had to take her to the hospital. The big difference here was that she couldn’t say that something had fallen into her eye, neither were her cries the screams of sheer pain they were that night. Obviously, I could tell this was not the same kind of pain. More than likely she’s just tired and her dry eyes are irritated, or, she’s touched them with a hand that touched some minute amount of essential oil mix she put on before bed. Either way, it is her FEAR that makes her think the pain is and will be the same.
There is no difference between our residual pains and hers, it is always FEAR that makes us expect the worst in people and situations. Fear that the friend will treat you the same way, that the man will be just as awful, that your parents were right all along. FEAR. And, fear, as the song says, “He is a liar.” And, as the Bible tells us, FEAR is not from God. I think I have heard it said that there are 365 verses that tell us not to fear, and that should cover every day of the year for us. Though I would love to say that count is accurate, alas, I cannot. But, the fact remains, the Bible tells us to fear not, and its truth is the same EVERY DAY.
I have no way of knowing what you fear, or who caused you to experience the residual pain of trauma, but I do know the Healer, and He’s way bigger than any-thing or -one who seeks to cause you harm. In Him there is peace, and in Him there can be an absence of fear if we are willing to let it go. The real question is, “Are we?”